Most couples in conflict aren't actually fighting about the dishes, the misread text message, or who forgot to grab groceries on the way home. Underneath the recurring argument is usually a deeper question — can I count on you, do you still want me, am I safe reaching for you — that neither partner is asking directly. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) works with that deeper layer directly, using the science of attachment and emotion to help you find your way back to each other, not just resolve the surface-level conflict.

What Is EFT Couples Therapy?

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based approach built on attachment science — the same research that explains how humans form secure bonds and what happens when that security gets disrupted. Most couples caught in conflict are stuck in a predictable negative cycle: one partner pursues, the other withdraws, or both dig in defensively, and the same argument repeats with different content each time. EFT helps you see that cycle clearly, as something happening between you rather than something wrong with either of you individually, and then works to interrupt it.

How does EFT help?

- Increase attachment security in the relationship

- Address relationship wounds — including attachment injuries like betrayal — through reconnection, not just resolution

- De-escalate recurring patterns of conflict

- Develop deeper intimacy and emotional accessibility

What a Session Actually Looks Like

In session, we slow down the moments that usually move too fast to examine — the point where one of you shuts down, or the other's voice gets sharp. Rather than debating the content of the disagreement, we track what's actually happening emotionally in that moment for each of you, and what you're each reaching for underneath the conflict. Over time, this builds both the awareness and the skill to turn toward each other during hard moments instead of away, so you can face challenges as a partnership rather than as opponents.

Who This Helps?

- You're stuck in the same conflict with your partner over and over, no matter how you try to resolve it

- You used to feel secure and loving together, but now struggle to find your way back to that connection

- There's been one or more attachment injuries in your relationship — a betrayal or breach of trust — and you don't know how to move through it

- You feel connected already and want to deepen your intimacy further

Our Team Of Providers

Our clinicians at Somatic Psychotherapy Group are trained in EFT, offering couples an attachment-oriented and experiential approach to unpacking relationship dynamics.. You can learn more about each clinician on Our Team Page, or reach out on our Contact Page and we'll help match you with the right fit.

Getting Started

Insurance does not cover therapy focused on relationship issues such as relationship dynamics, communication difficulties, or relationship distress. In these cases, services are provided on a private-pay basis. The rates are listed by provider on Our Team Page.